Separation Anxiety - Do not sneak away; stay cheerful when you leave
Sneaking away may seem the easy way out since you get
to avoid the melt-downs, but it has bad repercussions
in the long run. Your child will become clingier and
not so trusting of you, and this can become a problem
for you when you have to go out without her the next
time. By tip-toeing away, you have created more worries
and confusion in her mind. She is going to be thinking
when you are going to disappear again without warning
- not a very settling feeling for your young one.
Children pick up a lot of cues from your behavior. If
you are tensed they will sense the tension and absorb
it. This means she will become tensed too. So try and
relax because that is what you will be dissipating.
Not a sure-fire hit the first few times perhaps, but
the message will catch on with your child and very soon
your little one will be confident of your departures
and will happily let you go.
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